Perhaps I'm just a fairly positive and grateful person, but I like to count my blessings and give thanks often. We say a simple blessing before we eat our meals (Thank you for this bounty, let it be for the nourishment of our bodies, in Jesus' name, amen), I read a book about blessings to my son every night before bed, and I give prayers of thanksgiving every single day. Today I was reminded that good friends are one of God's most delightful blessings.
I'm active in a group of women who became mothers in 2008. After months upon months of suffering the lonely isolation of early motherhood, I joined the group in February 2009. I wish I'd joined far earlier because it would have spared me months of unnecessary pain and sadness.
I didn't know anyone with a baby and I didn't have a good social support network. There were weeks at a time that I didn't even leave the house once. It was a pretty bad time for me. I didn't join this group to find friends for my son, I joined to find friends for me. And, boy, have I found some wonderful friends!
Joining this group of moms helped boost my confidence. It was reassuring to find that I wasn't the only mom to struggle with things like breastfeeding and getting the baby to go to sleep. Knowing that I wasn't the only one struggling made me realize that I was not a failure.
It's a little intimidating to join a new group and I'm a pretty shy person so I dreaded the first few meetups that I attended. I'm thankful that these women were so welcoming and friendly. When I was drowning in new motherhood, they really were a lifeline for me. They've enriched my life in countless ways over the 18-months that I've been a member of this group.
I was so isolated and unsure of myself when I spent all those lonely months at home without companions. We really do need relationships and the joy of having such close friends. I feel closer to some of these moms than I do to members of my own family. That's not a slam against my family members, it's a compliment to these friends.
I know that around ten members of this group read this blog and I want you to know that I love you guys. Here's to many more years of friendship!